I’ve
been thinking about profile description on Instagram, it’s simple, “Living
without fear.” Every time I see it, I wonder if it’s truly what I am doing.
I’ve reasoned in the photos it is true. Most of my photos are pictures of
moments in life when I have chosen to truly live as I want to, to no fear
externalities, and to venture out and do what I want without fear.
However,
this makes clear another truth – the moments not captured on camera, are not
documented, often out of fear. Fear of being judged for doing the mundane in
part, but also largely because those off-camera moments are when I am living
with fear. Undocumented moments have included for me, hiding in my room, in the
car in places where I am not known, and only doing life when I think no one
else is around. The picture-less, fear-filled moments of life are those in
which I unreasonably, and hyperbolically fear the judgment of others, or the
one criticism, negative word, or look that will make me fill worthless or a
cause of pain. This fear is not seen; it is the moments that I hide from others
and that I do not let people see overtly. Admittedly though, I do live with
fear, despite how I’ve often thought of myself as fearless, and expressed that
I am fearless – I realize there are moments of fear that others never see. It’s
sad because when I am living in pure fear, often it feels like not living at all;
and perhaps living only feels real when I am existing without fear. This is
perhaps too metaphysical for a simple care group e-mail, but it’s something
I’ve been thinking about, and working out within myself for some time.
These
thoughts help me to understand why I likely feel such a deep vocation for
traveling. When I travel, very often there is this ability to be alone in
almost every moment. When I travel, I do not fear others, because I know they
do not know me, I know that the only moments they know me are often short
enough that I do not have to fear being hurt or causing hurt. It’s funny, to
see that the reason I love to travel, is because it provides me this sense of
safety, this ability to live as my most honest self - without fear. A lack of
fear allows me to love others, myself, and God in the purest of forms I know,
and perhaps this is why traveling feels so good for my soul.
As some
know, one of my favorite passages in the Bible is 1 John 4:16 onward. One
specific verse I think about just about every time I think of fear. It is a
verse that I have probably recited or referenced to each of you, even if I did
not state the verse by name. So, this should be familiar to you.
1 John 4: 18: “There is no fear in love. But perfect love
drives out fear, because fear has to do with punishment. The one who fears is
not made perfect in love.”
I speak of vulnerability in order to love beyond what we
currently know how to, I speak of beginning friendships and romance by stepping
on and over fear that makes us feel awkward to pursue another. These thoughts
and words come out of my experience and the roots that 1 John 4:18 has placed
within me.
It is sad, that I know over the last few years, fear has
become a bigger part of my life. Cowardice drives me to not live well. I know
this, and yet I only cry at understanding it, because I fear still more that I
will not be able to gather courage to overcome this malaise.
This is truth: I have lied to many, and been a hypocrite –
for I do live in fear. God forgive me, and may you forgive me, too.
May God help me in His great sovereignty, mercy, and grace,
as Hir (He/Her) feels fit to do. Please pray with me on this matter. May God
grant all of us the courage to overcome fear and live our lives more fully.
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